I have just finished the book, “The 5 Love Languages,” and discovered that my happiness with Tom has nothing to do with any intelligence or effort on our part.
According to this book, people have different love languages-i.e. how we perceive we are being loved. In addition, we instinctively convey love as we perceive it. Thus, you can be conveying love all day long but if you’re using a language the other person doesn’t perceive as love, they’re feeling morose, unloved. Conversely, if your instinctive expression of love is the love language your loved-one understands, you have inadvertently stumbled upon the perfect way to let the person know he or she is loved.
Tom and I share our top two love languages. Our least favorite love language is the same as well. So, for fourteen years, we’ve been telling each other non-stop and effectively that the other is loved.
Another example of it being better to be lucky than smart. Or, to look at it another way, don’t go getting the big head over what has been given to you for free.
here’s to creative synthesis . . .